How to be emotionally intelligent as a Christian

Knowing that emotional intelligence is a skill which we should endeavor to have as believers.
The next question is; how can we be emotionally intelligence??

Some people believe that emotional intelligence is inborn i.e , one is born with it just like IQ where one thinks a child inherits it from the parents. Some others think it can actually be learnt.

While these might be true, a person who is naturally intelligent would have to constantly study to sustain what they have. And so, emotional intelligence can also be learnt when you consciously program yourself to be it.
IQ will most likely get you that your dream Job , but it takes a high level of EQ to get you climbing to the leadership position.

Being Christ-like already gives you a head start. Emotional intelligence teaches you empathy, so does being in Christ.

Mark 6:34 And Jesus, when he came out, saw much people, and was moved with compassion toward them, because they were as sheep not having a shepherd: and he began to teach them many things.

Emotional intelligence demands that you feel someone else’s pain as yours. You are not selfish. It moves you to think about helping others. You are aware of what someone is passing through and you genuinely want to help them. You do not focus on yourself and your family alone, you think of others too.


In your work place, It means that you consciously advice yourself not to exploit your workers to enrich yourself. You ask questions about them and their feelings, you try to understand them and maybe help them the best way you can.
So, in other to be Emotionally intelligent, you must imitate Christ.
Learn to ask yourself, ” What would Christ have done in this situation?”.


Self- reflection is another way to exhibit Emotional intelligence. Being able to consciously reflect on your actions.

There is someone very close to me whose every action has a reason to it. And whenever I ask why; those reasons are always satisfactory. This is because he is a fast thinker and whenever he is having a conversation with someone: while others might listen to reply, he listens to understand you. He would always self-reflect by asking the ” WHY” question.

Why did he do what he did?
Is there a reason for his actions?
Am I responsible for how he feels?
What can I do to help him?
Should I react or just listen?.

If he isn’t too sure, he asks more questions to fully understand you.I learn from him a lot because it helps me to know that every reactions must have a cause.

Always make it a duty to understand someone before talking about them. It is true that alot of people feel good and satisfied when they talk ill about someone else. Understanding why someone did what they did will prevent you from being Judgemental.